I’ve been wanting to write this post for a long time. But I’m only now letting the words creep from my mind, to this page. Sometimes writing happens that way. Anyways, here goes…
We all have choices to make.
We have free will.
We have the ability to weigh a decision, weigh our circumstances, our intentions, our hopeful outcome, the risks that our hopes will not be actualized. We all make decisions based on where we are, and what we are dealing with, in the moment. This is good. But sometimes the choices we make need to change. Sometimes what works for awhile, and then doesn’t work anymore, needs to become the catalyst for a new choice.
As parents our choices seem to outnumber our thoughts. On a daily basis there are choices made that are too small for the eye to see. They way we answer a question, the face we make when something goes wrong, the tone we use when we address our partner after a long day, the soft touches, and kisses that let our people know they are loved. There are also the big ones, the decisions around what and how, we do what we do. The sleep arrangements, the food choices, the products consumed. The little choices are much like instinct, the bigger ones may be more thought out, but every choice made has the opportunity to be different, if we find that it no longer serves us. This is part of mindful, conscious, yogic parenting.
There are some choices that our little family has made that are under reflection right now. I don’t know what the outcome of this reflection will be, except that there may be some new choices made. Ultimately whatever we choose, we will remember that these decisions are not set in stone, they are not something we have to stick to, we will not be bad parents, or people, if we decide in a month, a week, a day, to make a different choice. We will be flexible. We will communicate. We will continue to reflect, and decide, choosing what we hope will keep our little family in balance.
That’s what is most important. Balance. And Trust. And Choice.
We are not perfect. We don’t strive to be. We do strive to be conscious, to be connected, to ourselves, and to each other. We do strive to create harmony, for all members of our small fold. We strive to create a life that is intentional, deliberate, chosen.